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Yesterday, I was making some valiant attempts to do some serious writing on my novel but I kept struggling to find the right words. I seemed to be focusing too much on getting it just so, and not just letting it all flow. Something was bugging me — I wasn’t in balance.

Then, a forum I belong to for writers called http://www.bookschoolcoach.com started a neat thread where the administrators of the forum would put a short phrase, with just a few words, for the forum members to pick up and continue to write anything they wanted using that phrase as a starting point. I truly cannot explain why taking one of those phrases and writing a few paragraphs with it put me back in the groove — back in balance — but it did, and I spent the rest of the afternoon writing some good stuff. Maybe it was the give and take between me and the administrators of the forum. They gave me a few words — and I turned it around and gave them a few paragraphs to enjoy. (By the way, the phase I chose was, “It was an unexpected visit”…)

It’s sort of like that in life, too, isn’t it? One of the beautiful things about a good relationship is the give and take of energy between the two people. When all is well, the parties in a relationship share the talking and listening, the giving and receiving of support, and, for the most part, it’s an equal sharing.

Sometimes that balance will shift a little and one of the people will need to talk more — or listen more — or give more — or need more than the other. In a good relationship, the balance between the two will have a way of equalizing over time. The secret is to know when you are being asked to give more than you can.

Have you ever had a friend, or been in a relationship where the balance was way out of whack? You know what I mean — the kind of relationship where everything is always about them and their life. You always have to listen to their problems, but they never give you the chance to talk about yours. It seems that you’re always being called upon for support and comfort, but they are rarely ever available to you when you need some of the same. This lack of balance can eventually get quite draining and unsatisfying, can’t it?

Not only that, but your options aren’t very simple to deal with either. You could just end the friendship — but that may leave you with feelings of guilt and the other person with feelings of abandonment. You could just let the relationship fade out on its own — relationships like that have a tendency to do that eventually. Or, you could just come out and tell your friend that you’d like to see more balance and ask for more time to share concerns equally. The risk is that you’ll really tick them off. On the other hand, they might understand and the result could be a solidly balanced friendship. If they weren’t aware of the imbalance — and they could see how important it was, they might just thank you for revealing what may have been a problem in other relationships in their life.

Another option would be to just accept things the way they are. It’s possible for a one-sided relationship to work, although it is only common in certain situations. An example would be where you are being taught by someone. Another would be where the other person is seriously ill or disabled. In those instances you will probably find yourself grateful that you are able to help.

I surely don’t know a lot about the subject of balance, other than to know when I’m not in balance. When that balance is off, for whatever reason, you’ll know it, because nothing seems to go the way it should. The best advice I can offer to you, and to myself, is to trust that balance will always, eventually even out in the long run, especially if we keep our focus on knowing when to give, and when to take.

And, as I always say in closing — remember these words …

You are special — and you are loved. You are the greatest gift you can be.

Shanti … (A sanscrit word meaning, “Let there be Peace. Peace, beautiful Peace. Peace within, Peace without. Peace in this world. Peace for all beings.”)

~~~ DBL-R

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If you’ve been reading here for any length of time, you know that I practice meditation every day. When I do so, I use, what I truly believe, is the most powerful personal growth and mind development tool on earth. It’s the The Holosync Solution. I knew that meditation was a vital element to nurturing my soul — to opening myself to the universe — and this tool has allowed me to achieve and receive the benefits of deep, long-term meditation — and to achieve it much more quickly. If you’re having trouble “getting meditation to work for you” – then the The Holosync Solution is what you’re looking for.

Regular, daily meditation can give you …

(1) Increased intelligence and creativity.
(2) Lower stress levels — and with that — increased ability to handle whatever the world tosses your way.
(3) New levels of self-awareness and inner peace.
(4) The healing of emotional issues at the deepest levels —

— it’s definitely worth taking the time for this powerful practice every day.

With a One-Year 100% Iron-Clad Guarantee, you can now do so with no risk whatsoever — then click any of the links that say … The Holosync Solution

— The Holosync Solution
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On Wednesday, my wife and I went to the movies. That doesn’t happen often, but I was anxious to see the new Michael Moore film called, “Sicko”. For those of you who are not living in the USA, Michael Moore is a documentarian who has done several films about social issues that need to be changed in this country. This film, “Sicko”, is about our health industry — and — it’s a shame to say — the USA is the only western country where quality health care is not equally available to all people when they need it.

As we were driving home after this film we were asking ourselves, “What can we do?” It didn’t take too long before we came to realize that as long as our elected Congresspeople were “on the take” to the private insurance industry and the pharmaceutical companies, our hands were tied. There is a level of political corruption that would prevent two concerned citizens from doing much of anything to make a real difference. Others, with a lot more power have tried and failed to bring about meaningful change in this area. As usual, money had the control over the welfare of the people.

Then our conversation went to the idea of moving to other countries where universal health care existed — countries like Canada, England and France, for example. As I did some research on that idea this morning I began to feel my age nagging at me. The thoughts of, “I’m too old to do this” — or — “I can’t get involved in all that at my age” began to creep through my mind.

In a way, having my thoughts switch over to age was a good thing, otherwise this blog posting would have ended up as a rant against political corruption. (Maybe, I should add a category for political rants to my blog, since I seem to be thinking along those lines rather often, lately.)

But, for today, I’m going to talk about age and a better way to think about age than what I was doing today.

No matter where we are in life, there are wonderful experiences we can savor and new, valuable things to learn and absorb. Every new decade and, in fact, every new year brings with it wisdom and growth, as well as ends and beginnings.

What most of us do, though, is to believe that there is one age that is better than others. I know I was feeling that a younger age was better than where I am today. Then I began to realize that wishing to be younger — or as some younger people do — wishing to be older, is a denial of the joys that have been and the joys yet to be, as well as the beauty of life as it is today. If we try too hard to hold onto an age, we may find it difficult to appreciate the milestones yet to come.

Each new year is a gift from the universe. Each new year has new, exciting and unfamiliar experiences. In our 20s, we can embrace the energy of youth and the learning process, knowing it’s okay to not have all the answers. As we go through the decade of our 30s, we become more self-assured and lose some of that confusion we felt in the last decade. We have fewer fears, become more certain of our values and see the benefits of our new maturity. Our 40s brings more wisdom and we learn to put our knowledge to good use. In our 50s we tend to get our lives in order and even do some reevaluations about what we want and where we’re going. In the 60s, 70,s and I’m sure even in the 80s and 90s, we discover a greater sense of freedom than we have ever known, and can begin to enjoy so much of what we’ve seen and done.

So, even though I may not be able to do anything today about the healthcare crisis in this country, I can try to enjoy the age I am now and utilize whatever wisdom I’ve accumulated to work toward changes for the betterment of everyone.

And, as I always say in closing — remember these words …

You are special — and you are loved. You are the greatest gift you can be.

Shanti … (A sanscrit word meaning, “Let there be Peace. Peace, beautiful Peace. Peace within, Peace without. Peace in this world. Peace for all beings.”)

~~~ DBL-R

P.S. Remember, that if you have one of the “readers” — like My Yahoo, My MSN, or the Google Reader, or any of the others, you can get our blog sent to you automatically, whenever I post to it. Just click one of the buttons over on the left side to add it to your reader.
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If you’ve been reading here for any length of time, you know that I practice meditation every day. When I do so, I use, what I truly believe, is the most powerful personal growth and mind development tool on earth. It’s the The Holosync Solution. I knew that meditation was a vital element to nurturing my soul — to opening myself to the universe — and this tool has allowed me to achieve and receive the benefits of deep, long-term meditation — and to achieve it much more quickly. If you’re having trouble “getting meditation to work for you” – then the The Holosync Solution is what you’re looking for.

Regular, daily meditation can give you …

(1) Increased intelligence and creativity.
(2) Lower stress levels — and with that — increased ability to handle whatever the world tosses your way.
(3) New levels of self-awareness and inner peace.
(4) The healing of emotional issues at the deepest levels —

— it’s definitely worth taking the time for this powerful practice every day.

With a One-Year 100% Iron-Clad Guarantee, you can now do so with no risk whatsoever — then click any of the links that say … The Holosync Solution

— The Holosync Solution
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[tags]peace, inner self, The Secret, Law of Attraction, peace, dreams, spiritual energy, action, value, inner balance, enlightenment, destiny, manifestation, meditation, patience, gratitude, tolerance, acceptance, body balance, life cycle, beginnings, endings, positive thinking, ego, silence, consciousness, staying grounded, cycle of life[/tags]

I came across the picture you see on the blog today and found that it really moved me. The way I see the photo is of two hands touching — one of the hands is older — and the one is obviously very young. It struck me as such an image of compassion — of gentleness — of kindness.

As many of my readers know, I am an advocate for peace — for a kinder, gentler world, and in my opinion, I believe that kindness is the one tool we can use that is, by far, the easiest to use. I’m no different than the next person, though, when it come to remembering to use the tool of kindness. There are so many opportunities that come across our paths every day to be kind to someone, and we just miss them — we overlook them.

The wonderful thing about practicing kindness and gentleness is that it’s simple to do. All it takes is a word of praise for someone — even a stranger. Maybe it’s just as simple as a gentle touch – or a helping hand — or a moment of courtesy. It can even be as simple as smiling at someone as they pass you by on the street. These small, simple gestures of kindness and respect represent something even greater. They are a type of unconditional, unrestricted form of love that we are all free to give, or not give, as we choose. There are no strings attached to these small acts. We’re not demanding or expecting anything in return. It’s total giving. It’s a gift of kindness. This gift does two very important things — it sends out the energy of hope and happiness that warms your heart — and it warms the heart of the person on the receiving end of your gift.

Kindness is made up of compassion, respect, and generosity. We give kindness to others without checking first to see if they deserve it — we just give it, no questions asked. We all thrive on kindness. Sometimes, a sincere compliment can turn someone’s life around. If you hold the door for someone, it just may happen that person will turn around and hold the door for someone else — just because you reminded them of that kindness. Every kind act has a positive influence on the individual who has performed the act as well as on the recipient, regardless of whether the act is acknowledged. Kindness brings about more kindness and slowly but surely has a positive result on humanity.

So, remember to make this simple act a part of your day, every day. It can be as simple as a hearty “Good morning” to your neighbor, or a stranger on the street or the cashier in the supermarket. Don’t worry about whether they’ll think you’re nuts — rather, just know that they’ll feel better for it — and so will you. When you perform an act of kindness for someone, you are, for that moment, away from being wrapped up in yourself. You have formed a momentary bond with the person who is benefiting from your gift. You are, for that moment, living fully IN that moment.

You may not realize it, but each and every act of kindness you offer does make the world a better place. It may be in a small way, but what if your act of kindness is picked up by others, and it spreads?

Wow!

And, as I always say in closing — remember these words …

You are special — and you are loved. You are the greatest gift you can be.

Shanti … (A sanscrit word meaning, “Let there be Peace. Peace, beautiful Peace. Peace within, Peace without. Peace in this world. Peace for all beings.”)

~~~ DBL-R

P.S. Remember, that if you have one of the “readers” — like My Yahoo, My MSN, or the Google Reader, or any of the others, you can get our blog sent to you automatically, whenever I post to it. Just click one of the buttons over on the left side to add it to your reader.
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If you’ve been reading here for any length of time, you know that I practice meditation every day. When I do so, I use, what I truly believe, is the most powerful personal growth and mind development tool on earth. It’s the The Holosync Solution. I knew that meditation was a vital element to nurturing my soul — to opening myself to the universe — and this tool has allowed me to achieve and receive the benefits of deep, long-term meditation — and to achieve it much more quickly. If you’re having trouble “getting meditation to work for you” – then the The Holosync Solution is what you’re looking for.

Regular, daily meditation can give you …

(1) Increased intelligence and creativity.
(2) Lower stress levels — and with that — increased ability to handle whatever the world tosses your way.
(3) New levels of self-awareness and inner peace.
(4) The healing of emotional issues at the deepest levels —

— it’s definitely worth taking the time for this powerful practice every day.

With a One-Year 100% Iron-Clad Guarantee, you can now do so with no risk whatsoever — then click any of the links that say … The Holosync Solution

— The Holosync Solution
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[tags]peace, inner self, The Secret, Law of Attraction, peace, dreams, spiritual energy, action, value, inner balance, enlightenment, destiny, manifestation, meditation, patience, gratitude, tolerance, acceptance, body balance, life cycle, beginnings, endings, positive thinking, ego, silence, consciousness, staying grounded, cycle of life[/tags]